Insight. It’s the moments that catch you off guard, an unexpected reply, a joke that lands strangely, someone putting us on the spot in front of a group, that feels like our self-worth is being tested. But it is not. It tests our recovery, not our worth. So What? No one expects you to have the perfect line loaded and ready. What people actually remember isn’t the moment that caught you off guard, it's how you found your footing again straight after. Finding your footing is not about an...
13 days ago • 1 min read
Insight. Fear of speaking up doesn’t just make you feel nervous, it may make you blind. Sounds drastic I know but most of the time we do not notice we have blind spots because of the fears we carry. When you’re afraid or nervous about having a conversation, an interview, or to lead a presentation, your mind spends so much energy managing the fear that it has minimal energy left over for noticing what’s actually in front of you. Your opportunity is usually still there, you’ve just quietly...
20 days ago • 1 min read
Insight. I have gone silent during those big changes that rattles all, and I have also used my voice to shape the change I was going through regardless of the uncertainty I felt. Both gave different results, yet each reinforced for me the power of our voice. So what? Your voice is the change. It shapes the change you are going through and using it is what helps you discover the answers you need which fills the gaps that uncertainty once created. Next Step. You have the power to decide. Do you...
27 days ago • 1 min read
Insight. I used to avoid, run from, and push down fear. Yet it still showed up. Then I learned to get curious about it and discovered it was really hiding something that was important to me. So What? During the creation period of the Speak Afraid Method, I learned that fear is strategic. Fear loves you and I to stay put where we are because it knows how to navigate it. But that was a long term surface level understanding I had. Fear is really trying to hide something more meaningful to you...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Insight. There’s a difference between being in flow and staying in motion. The act of busyness is staying in motion. It feels productive and even great. It feels like dedication, like you’re someone who gets things done, who shows up, who doesn’t stop when things get hard…or busy. For a while that story is partly true but there is a version of busyness that you may become stuck in that has nothing to do with being in a flow. These signals are so subtle to start with, that it is only through...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Insight I sometimes think that being under pressure is like being a boiling potato. Yes, thanks to me practicing the Speak Afraid Method, I am becoming more courageous and confident in sharing different perspectives to help you communicate through the uncertainty gap of change. Now back to boiling potatoes. Pressure is required for the potato to boil and for it to change its state from raw to cooked. Pressure here is not a problem but something required to help the potato transform. It’s when...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Insight I’ve said “you are enough” to other people more times than I can count, I even included it as my first affirmation in my book Confidence Booster, Affirmations to Reframe Your Mindset and Boost Confidence. I meant it every time I said it and wrote it. I can see it in others clearly, and know it is a truth. But believing it about myself, in a way that sticks, well, that is a different conversation. So I spent time learning why and so far, I came across two reasons. I will discuss one...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Insight For years I believed courage was something I needed to dig for. The deeper I went, the more I’d find. So, when change arrived and shook something loose inside me, I kept digging, head down, inward, searching. I didn’t realise that all that digging was actually my most convincing excuse to stay still. I was in the uncertainty gap. No longer who I was, not yet who I am becoming, and in that in between space, I couldn’t articulate much. The words sat at the tip of my tongue and wouldn’t...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Insight There is a tiredness from change that I feel is not talked about much at all. The kind that comes from still showing up for your team, your clients, your family, lets face it, all the people who need the version of you that feels most like yourself. Yet here you are in change. A change that is currently transforming who you are becoming, so their ask and your desire to show up as yourself becomes a little harder. Especially when you are in what I call the uncertainty gap where you are...
2 months ago • 3 min read
