Confidence Isn’t a Personality Trait.


Insight.

Confidence isn’t something you are born with. It is built from two things, exposure and mindset. The more you’ve been near something, the calmer you are each time it comes. Also the story you’ve already decided to tell yourself about this something, shapes everything that happens next.

So What?

That means confidence is buildable, not innate. You don’t need to become a different person. You need to practice courage to step into situations to increase your exposure and experience to them, and make a decision on what mindset you want to help you through that situation.

Next Steps.

Pick one thing you are anxious about this week. Before it happens, finish these three sentences in writing: “If it goes wrong, I will…” “If it goes right, I will…” “If something unexpected happens, I will…”

All the best, Susan.

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Hi, I'm Susan, creator of the Speak Afraid Method, host of the Blossoming Speaker Podcast, author of two books, and someone who has lives through the very thing Blossoming Speaker is built for; to develop a calm and lasting confidence in how you communicate, whether fear shows up or not. I use the Speak Afraid Method because it's a way to communicate with fear still with you in different public settings, so you may achieve meaningful connections and move forward in your journey. Because I've been there, both as the student and the teacher. I enjoy sharing a practical insight each week because lasting communication confidence is built one step at a time. Last few newsletters to read under the Posts tab. This newsletter has been published since 2023. It has been hosted on Kit since 2024.

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