You're in a gap between who you were and who you're becoming. Your communication confidence can feel borrowed. Your sense of self can feel like it needs a new address. Each edition delivers one small step to help you communicate with more confidence, and move through change without losing yourself. Read one below, if you find yourself in it, you're in the right place. Written by Susan, Director of Blossoming Speaker and creator of the Speak Afraid Method.
You already know “You are enough”, so why doesn’t it stick?
InsightI’ve said “you are enough” to other people more times than I can count, I even included it as my first affirmation in my book Confidence Booster, Affirmations to Reframe Your Mindset and Boost Confidence. I meant it every time I said it and wrote it. I can see it in others clearly, and know it is a truth. But believing it about myself, in a way that sticks, well, that is a different conversation. So I spent time learning why and so far, I came across two reasons. I will discuss one here, but the second, well you need to listen to it in my latest podcast, titled, “Enough is enough”. So WhatWe live in a world that constantly implies you need to do more to be more to have control, and that control is what helps us through uncertainty and fear. But I discovered knowing you are enough is not about volume, output or control. It is a decision. One made quietly within you and repeated, especially in the moments when there is a lot of uncertainty or when fear is the loudest. The decision is to believe you are enough. After that decision, you take action on that decision. Next step.Listen to the episode Enough is enough, where I go deeper into this reason and let you know the second. Then reflect on which reason pulls you away from the belief that you are enough? All the best, Susan. |
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You're in a gap between who you were and who you're becoming. Your communication confidence can feel borrowed. Your sense of self can feel like it needs a new address. Each edition delivers one small step to help you communicate with more confidence, and move through change without losing yourself. Read one below, if you find yourself in it, you're in the right place. Written by Susan, Director of Blossoming Speaker and creator of the Speak Afraid Method.
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