If you are feeling stuck or bound by fear, you may be in the uncertainty gap. That's what I call the place between who you were and who you are becoming. Restructures live there. Career pivots live there. New leadership, new industries, new technology, all of it lands people in that gap, and most are told to just "adjust." I don't do adjust. I do redirect: taking the fear that uncertainty triggers and turning it straight into courage to communicate. It's a way through so you may realise the new version of you, that you are becoming...and with confidence along the way.
What is fear pointing to?
Insight.I used to avoid, run from, and push down fear. Yet it still showed up. Then I learned to get curious about it and discovered it was really hiding something that was important to me. So What?During the creation period of the Speak Afraid Method, I learned that fear is strategic. Fear loves you and I to stay put where we are because it knows how to navigate it. But that was a long term surface level understanding I had. Fear is really trying to hide something more meaningful to you because it knows that when we step into it, fear no longer has power over you. Do you still want fear to stand between you and that meaningful thing on the other side of it? Next Step.Invest in 5 minutes to reflect on one fear sitting with you right now. What is fear really trying to tell you? Give yourself permission to go past the surface level answer by asking that answer, why? Episode four of the Blossoming Speaker Podcast, What is fear really trying to tell you? Begins to reveal the layers behind the surface level barrier fear is using to stop you from walking forward and through. All the best, Susan. |
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If you are feeling stuck or bound by fear, you may be in the uncertainty gap. That's what I call the place between who you were and who you are becoming. Restructures live there. Career pivots live there. New leadership, new industries, new technology, all of it lands people in that gap, and most are told to just "adjust." I don't do adjust. I do redirect: taking the fear that uncertainty triggers and turning it straight into courage to communicate. It's a way through so you may realise the new version of you, that you are becoming...and with confidence along the way.
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